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Wednesday, January 16, 2013
5 steps to the India of our dream
1. Reaction: Kill/castrate/hang/shame/punish the perpetrators of the crime.
2. Analysis: It happened because Indian society is repressed or judicial system is slow or police is toothless or worse, complicit or the girl was to be blamed or the stars were to be blamed or chowmein was to be blamed
3. Polarization: Attack and ridicule at people whose reaction or analysis disagrees with ours.
The gruesome incident seems to have significantly reduced the space for free speech, respectful debate and multiple perspectives. This polarization and antagonism is sure to come in the way of any sustainable solution. Here's why:
There is a current India.
And there is an India of our dream - The ideal India.
The current India has a lot of people who are not like us. They think differently, have different mindsets, and therefore, act differently. This current India can be mapped on two axis - Mindset and Economic power. It looks like this (this is simplistic but mostly accurate):
The 5 steps to an Ideal India (in no particular order)
I do not suggest that we create a new shared vision. Our constitution has given us a great ideal - that of justice, liberty, equality and fraternity. The challenge is to make it truly a shared vision. And put it into practice with integrity.
I might believe that women are better as homemakers than at career but it is not my decision to make. In the India of our ideal, every women will have the liberty to choose whether to stay at home as a homemaker or step out as career woman. Ditto for what to wear, where to go, at what time and with whom. No male can accord this right to himself - it is not his decision to make.
Are we there yet? Far from it. Most women in India don't even have a choice. Theirs is a life of survival - abject poverty perpetuated by gross illiteracy. Get enough drinking water, enough food to feed her family, enough clothes to cover the bodies, a roof over her head. Their conception of honor is shaped and colored by the conditioning of their economic reality and their patriarchal upbringing. No wonder Abhijit Mukherjee and Mohan Bhagwat said what they said. These women don't know what is possible for them and hence don't ask. And their silence is taken as affirmation that things are ok. Unless the economic and education levels of women in India improve, there is little hope of our constitutional ideals coming to bear. This is step 1. Fundamental. Affirmative action for women. Can we implement RTE for women first? Can we ensure adequate boundary walls, toilets for them when they come to school? Can we have special scholarships for them? Can we have special training, coaching and mentoring for them? If our women are educated and empowered, half the abuse will disappear (rhetorical but am willing to bet on it)
What happens when people do not act as per our ideals? What happens when they commit crimes? The 'conservative haves' see themselves above the law. The lack of justice delivered, has emboldened them to a level where any excess is fair game for them. Whether it is breaking rules when it suits them or bumping anyone who is an inconvenience, they do anything to achieve what they want. And they don't fear any consequence because there isn't any. It is an old boy's network and the only way to get in is with money, mostly ill gotten. Our judicial system needs to uphold the idea of justice. Our laws have to be strengthened to prevent abuse - child abuse, women abuse, any abuse of power, instance of which, we see everyday around us - man over woman, rich over poor, political goonda over hapless layman, policeman over hawker, babu over businessman, business tycoon over employee. Police has to be decriminalized and depoliticized. Cases need to be dealt with faster. We need more judges. We need to demand it because the 'conservative haves' will not allow it. This is step 2. Constitutional, Judicial and Institutional (mainly police and bureaucracy) Reform. And justice delivered.
And what about the crimes committed by the 'have nots'? What about the daily incidents of robbery, murder, rape? The 'have nots' mostly lack the scaffolding of moral fibre that a basic economic well-being, a good upbringing, role modelling or education create. And it is easy to imagine why we, the 'haves' rankle on their nerves. 24 hour news channels beam news of wedding invitations coming with Rolex watches followed by the Delhi CM announcing that ₹600 is enough for a family of 5 for a month! And news of a tycoon flying everyone and his grandmother to a Jaipur palace where elephants wait to get them to their rooms is followed by news of homeless dying of the winter cold and seeking refuge in Sulabh toilets. A man pushing a cart is honked and glared at by the driver of a BMW for slowing him down. It is not that people who have wealth, use it as they please. It is that there are so many people without any of it and they have to suffer the excesses of the rich in front of their eyes, day in and day out. A constant reminder of what they are missing. A constant reminder that the state has failed them. Unless we bring them out of poverty and illiteracy, the spiral of violent crime will continue to increase. We ignore this at our own peril. This is step 3. A well researched poverty alleviation & education program that is not only based on subsidy (give a man fish) but on sustainable employment / entrepreneurship (enable him to fish).
Lastly, What happens when people who are supposed to serve and protect us, turn on us and start abusing their power? What happens when they plunder our resources, are ready to do anything as long as the price is right and are driven by recovering their election investment than any sense of public service? Why is it that 150+ MPs have criminal cases against them? How do we get criminals out of politics and bring back the sense of service? This is step 4. Electoral Reform. We need a transparent system of political funding (that Indira Gandhi abolished) to prevent black money of criminals and favor-seekers we also need. And we need to debar candidates with criminal record from contesting (with safeguards to prevent abuse with false cases to prevent good candidates). This will clear the way for the 'liberal haves and have nots' to contest elections. We need a fresh transfusion of clean blood in Indian politics and we need it real soon!
This begs the question: Why isn't this being done? I'll answer this with another one: Whose interest will it serve? The 'conservative haves' who rule India do not see it in their interest. Status quo is in their interest. We have to hold them to account. Show them the inauthenticity between what they proclaim (the constitution) and what they practice! Unless we, the 'liberal haves' stand up to demand that we practice our preamble, we'll continue to be taken for a ride. This is step 5. Public protest. Peaceful but forceful.
These 5 steps can lead us to the India of our ideals. The India of our dreams, as mentioned in our Preamble. It would look like this (again, simplistic but close):
While we are at it and while we work to create the India of our dreams, here's a handy guide for the women of my country. I don't mean to be presumptuous or pedantic but this is what I would say to my sister, my daughter, my wife and female friends:
Take the locus of control of your safety in your hands. The whole exercise of asking men to change so you can be safe, betrays your underlying sense of powerlessness. Let's change our country but while we do it, let's be safe:
a. Learn personal safety. Be a person who others can't mess with. Judo, Boxing, Pepper spray, Chilli powder - whatever works for you. While we wait for the country to become safe, let's start by becoming a person who can take care of herself.
b. If you are partying late, be with people you know and be sure you have a female friend, who you and your family trusts, with you.
c. If you are out late, don't be alone. Ensure there is a trusted friend with you. Avoid public transport that is secluded.
d. If you befriend someone on the internet, do not meet him alone the first few times.
e. If you are choosing to wear a short skirt or a cleavage showing top, ensure you are in a place where that's an accepted form of dressing and with people who don't see it as an invitation to make a pass.
f. Drink but do not accept drinks from strangers. Also, it doesn't hurt to ask a new male acquaintance offering you drinks, to drink it himself.
These can be clubbed under 'common sense' and would hold true in any country or any culture. And these can avoid at least some of the instances that we keep reading about in the papers.
Jai Hind
Sunday, December 30, 2012
Where did we go wrong? (And how to right it)
There have been so many questions and so few answers. I have tried to stay away from rants of instant justice - castration, hanging, stoning, mutilating. I don't want to become one of them. I want justice to be done and I want to it to be done with due process. I just want the process to be fast. I don't want to see the accused going out on bail, the witness turning hostile, the judge falling ill or the police officer getting transferred. One thing going for the case (if anything could!) is that the accused are not high profile, politically influential, rich people. They are easy targets for hostility - illiterate, uncouth bus drivers and their friends. They are people we can imagine to be indulging in such heinous crime. God forbid, if it were some politician's nephew or some industrialist's son. Facts would have been distorted, PR machineries would be activated and the victim would have been turned into a vamp.
None of that thankfully happened in this case and hence, the battle lines are clearly drawn. This polarization gives us the opportunity to see the problem clearly and without any smokescreens. This gives us the opportunity to do something about it. And after all the rage, it is time to reflect on what led to this and resolve to act against it.
Shireesh, my ex-boss and friend rightly pointed out that it has come to be about 'what is it that we can get away with'? In a civil society, we are supposed to live by some rules. Power has checks and balances. Sex is consensual. Money is legally earned and taxes paid on it. Ownership to property and wealth is protected by law. If someone steps out of the legal framework, he is given punishment commensurate with the crime.
These rules hold if everyone plays by them. Or those who do not play by them, at least publicly accord themselves specials rights to not play by them - some use religion, some use force and others invoke royal lineage. The problem occurs when we say we are all equal but behave unequally. Democracy in theory means everyone is equal and government is by the people, of the people and for the people. Democracy in action though is very different. It is feudalism in disguise. True, you choose your government but in effect you choose who you'll be ruled by.
When some people start to regard themselves above the law, it frays the fabric of civil society. More and more people start to test how much they can get away with. The problem is exacerbated when minor crimes are left unpunished. This emboldens petty criminals to try for bigger and bolder adventures. And slowly anarchy sets in. Then everything goes.
Anger, Lust, Envy and Greed are base human tendencies present in everyone. They stay in check because our education and upbringing creates a strong context against them, that they are BAD. Civil society creates more barriers by creating a punitive framework where acts emerging out of these basal instincts are met with severe punishment thereby creating deterrents.
In India today, neither of these exist. Our law and order system has gone for a toss. People see politicians and the rich get away with crimes of murder, bribery, extortion and adultery. Nothing happens to them. Whether it is ND Tiwari, A Raja, Lalu Yadav, Jagan Reddy, Sharad Pawar, Vijay Mallya, Navin Jindal....the list is endless. They think anything goes - why not have a go. After all, our basal instincts are at play all the time!
Our education system and our value system is terribly frayed. Moral science is just a subject - often inconsequential since it is without marks. Teachers are very rarely role models - they are typically bottom of class and choose this as a vocation of last resort. Families perpetuate existing prejudices. When boys see themselves treated better than their sisters or nieces, they think this how it is supposed to be. Mothers often ask their daughters to help them in cooking, cleaning and sweeping while their sons can eat, drink and be merry.
Unless, this triad of education, family and deterrent works, this anarchy will continue.
People need to understand what is right and what is wrong. And they need to see that when someone does wrong, he meets with the consequence commensurate with his wrongdoing.
For this to happen, we need to hire more judges. We need to hire more policewomen and free up policemen from VIP security to common man. We need to train them better and we need to pay them better. We need to free the police and judges free from political influence. We need to pass stronger laws for the safety of women.
We need to create a national movement that questions are existing biases and prejudices. Bollywood, TV channels, NCERT, UGC and NCTE - all have a role to play in education because formally and informally, they both create and mirror societal values.
But the most important one is the need to decriminalize our politics. The whole economics of elections where a person needs to 'invest' crores of rupees, forces a person to 'recover' that investment with a decent return over his term of 5 years. And since legal and above-board ways of recovering those crores don't exist, we are creating a system that necessitates corruption, cronyism and favoritism. The profile of our Lok Sabha and Rajya Sabha is a testimony to the cliche - politics is the last refuge of the scoundrel. Electoral reform is the biggest lever we have to improve our society. Election funding has to be made more transparent. Criminals have to be barred from contesting elections. Unfortunately, the very leaders who are supposed to create these laws are products of the same system - so there is a conflict of interest.
It is us, civil society, who will have to demand this and make it happen. And more of us have to join politics. These ideas are not for instant gratification. While the hanging of the 6 accused will assuage our anger (and mine too), we need to go deeper and longer to see real change!
Sunday, December 23, 2012
My father's son
I feel that death indicates a stop. A shuddering halt to a journey in motion. A full stop. A curtain call. Star in the sky indicates a transition. A journey from 'here' to 'there'. There's a continuity to it, a fluidity to it that is reminiscent of life itself. It is as if in death, a new life is achieved.
Today, on the occasion of his becoming a star in the sky, I am assaulted by a lot of thoughts - a lot of them conflicting, colliding but then coalescing into the same dull, calming light inside that he emanates outside.
These thoughts are like passing slides of a motion picture. Actually no, they flit across the firmament of my mind like the dust particles that suddenly appear out of nothing when a ray of sunlight peeks into my room.
The first thought I was hit by was that time is indeed a big healer. Today, in the morning havan for my star's shanti, my whole life with him flashed past me as a series of images. And amazingly, all images were from the happy times we had spent together - him visiting us in Singapore, in Mumbai, our holidays in Thailand and our visits to Pathankot. Him playing with Zoya on her 1st birthday, him teaching us in Govt College Talwara. The last month before he left us did not come up! At all! When people, in the immediate aftermath of his passing away, told me 'samay ke saath sab theek ho jayega', I would scream inside, 'you don't know what I'm going through! So don't tell me it'll be ok' and manage a silent nod outside. But now, it appears to be true. When I spread out our lives together on a timeline, the last month of pain diminishes in import compared to the 34 years of joy! Time is indeed a big healer and the more we let it do its job, the better it does its job!
The second that hit me was our preoccupation with the past. We commemorate, we relive, we analyze our past at the expense of our present. We mourn our dead at the expense of the living. There are people in my life who are the flesh of his flesh and the blood of his blood - they are the celebration of what he created. My brother and my sister - who hurt everyday from losing his presence around them. My mother - who has emerged a giant from the time her world collapsed around her. Maybe the best way to keep him alive is to keep my love for them alive.
Hurt is a funny thing. When you are hurting, you think hurting others will make your hurt go away. It doesn't work that way. Hurt is a vicious cycle - the more we are hurt, the more we hurt and then the more we are hurt. I don't know how to break the cycle. Different things work for different people. Some people get tired of carrying so much bile in them that they give in to their greater self. Some people get shaken out of their stupor of the hurt cycle by someone - who is objective and is trusted. Some people undergo moments where their hurt suddenly appears insignificant in front of life. But one thing is for sure - hurt erodes the wholeness of life. It nibbles at you every time you act out of hurt. And the more you indulge in minor quibbles to hurt others, the less you are left of yourself. I only wish everyone can find within or around him, the impulse that will pull him out of the cycle of hurt and put him on the path of love.
Another thing that lives beyond my dad are the values that he lived by. Everyday that I stand up for what I believe in, I live him. Everyday, that I do my duty without worrying about results, I live him. Everyday, that I disallow people from hurting me by having no expectations from them, I live him. These are not recipes for happy living - no way am I saying these are great ideas or that he was a saint. This is the way he lived life and I become him when I live my life this way. Isn't this a wonderful way of keeping someone alive by moving forward via his values? Instead, we mop and mourn and yearn for what could have been!
So today, when I got up from the havan, I had a sense of peace about me. I knew that I was my father's son. And in living his values and loving his creations, I was him.
Wednesday, October 10, 2012
10 days of hell for a lifetime of heaven - Part 1
Caveat: My experience is mine alone. It is neither representative nor model. It is neither good nor bad. It is neither desirable nor repelling. It is just my experience. Your participation in Vipassana will give you what it will give you - it'll neither be what I got nor better or worse; it'll just be uniquely yours.
29th August
Forms, formats and a glimpse of what lay ahead
As I dragged my trolley bag up the steps towards Global Vipassana Center, I was playing up in my mind what lay in store for the next 10 days. I had no real notion of what happens in the course. I just had an idea of the impact it makes on people who had done the course. As I walked in, I saw a board that read WOMEN (महिलाएं ), another that read DONATION (दान ) and a third that read MEN (पुरुष ). A long verandah and two old people behind govt-office-looking desks. A teenager was with a middle aged woman who seemed to be his mother. There was some construction work going on beyond the desks. My first impressions were 'basic', 'vernacular' and 'geriatric' and my overriding thought was, 'is it going to be worth the 10 days away from family and work?'
The guy behind the desk said something in Gujarati that sounded like, 'take this pen, fill this form, read the instructions and go inside.' The form laid out the strict rules for the course -
1. Can't leave once we begin the course
2. Can't murder anyone - yeah that was never the intent
3. Can't steal - hmmm.....can do that
4. Can't indulge in sexual misconduct - yeah can tick that one too
5. Can't tell lies - well, we are supposed to be silent, right?
6. Can't have intoxicants - yeah, didn't carry my hip flask!
7. Can't take notes, can't keep any eatables with me - I was carrying a box of dry fruits and had no intention of turning it in, esp since my mother spoke about no food after 6pm!
Having resolved in my head that 6 out of 7 wasn't bad, I said yes to all the rules, submitted the form, and dinner being 5 hours away, I dragged my trolley bag to my 1st floor room. Room No 137 was neat, spartan and there was air conditioning! 'Not bad' I thought, 'for a course in meditation to provide participants air conditioning.'
At around 3pm, I woke up to a lot more buzz outside. As I went downstairs, my eyes went to the notice board that read, '7.30pm introduction of anna panna'. Sounded curiously similar to aampanna - the sweet sour drink that I love at Kailash Parbat or Mahesh Lunch Home - my spirits soared before sanity prevailed and I concluded that it is some stuff that don't understand........yet.
5pm and I was asked to hand over my mobile phone and wallet. 6.30pm, the bell rang and we trooped into the dinner hall. 7.30pm and we were walking to our designated seat in the 2nd floor meditation hall. As I walked in, I noticed that I had got a raw deal. While bald, old men sat smugly on cushioned chairs, those of us who had left the 'health issues' column blank were being rewarded with cushions on the floor without any back support! Oh, How would my body, that's always propped on at least 2 pillows or half a dozen cushions, bear this torture? How would I survive? Would there be rotation - people sitting on chairs today, moving to the floor tomorrow?
'Not a good beginning,' I thought to myself as I located my cushion number and reluctantly sat in the lotus position. After a while, Guruji's sonorous voice rang through the hall and he taught us the practice of observing our breath - the practice of anna panna.
I found it hard going because every time I observed my breath, I realized that I was observing the pain in my ankled touching the floor or the weight of my one leg over the other, or the pain in my back that was aching for support. Oh there I was thinking about Zoya and Anay going to bed at this time. And then I was thinking about Zee and all the people I had worked with. My mind was incontrollable - racing from one location to another, one thought to another, without any warning. However hard I tried to observe my breath, I ended up observing something else. Since my eyes were closed, I had no way of finding how others were doing although it did occur to me to open one eye just enough to check
Thankfully, Guruji's voice rang through again and ended with 'भवतु सर्व मंगलं' (although I have to admit, I was only able to recognize what he said by the 5 day when I read it on the slide!). This signaled the end of the session and we were told that we had to do anna panna for the whole of next day.
Suddenly, the next day didn't seem that desirable. And I went to bed at 9.30pm wondering what I had landed myself into.
Next post, Part 2 covers -
30th August - Day 1
Oh my god, what did I do!
31st August - Day 2
How many days left?
1st September - Day 3
I think I'll be able to do it
Thursday, September 27, 2012
10 days of hell for a lifetime of heaven - Prequel
A close relative visiting us in Singapore made quite an impression because of her calm demeanor and the fact that at 50, she was traveling by herself on a vacation. Over dinner one day, the conversation meandered to what caused her unflappable countenance. She mentioned a course that we had never heard of and which, in our agnostic, hedonistic, DINK status, had no meaning for us. When I asked what it was all about, she offered what seemed to be a lame excuse at that time - "Jaanane aur maanane mein bahut faraq hota hai. I can tell you but you won't understand till you experience it", she said. Vipassana - the course she mentioned sounded like some religious or spiritual cult and we were hardly in the mood for anything so serious or deep!
June 2007
I quit Procter driven by what my dad used to call 'divine discontentment' (He used to say this with an equal measure of exasperation and indulgence). He would say that I'm never satisfied by what I have and am constantly seeking a higher purpose for my life. I remember one of his letter (yes, he belonged to an era where fathers wrote letters to their children and captured all their love and longings in those envelops) where he advised me to rest my oars and think of settling down with babies. Like most things in my life, I did not agree with him on this too and chose to go ahead with my decision to quit P&G. I was clear that my heart was not in selling 'hope in a jar'. I was clear that I wanted to be in education - helping children realize their true potential. In those months post quitting, I read widely about learning, child development, child psychology and almost anything that smelled of education. Providence led me to meet Subhash Chandra and I found myself joining Zee Learn and thereby moving back to India.
October 2007
I started my tenure at Zee Learn and the more time I spent learning about how children learnt and how children develop, the more I was sure that I had found my calling. One day, I learnt that Zee group has a policy that anyone who wanted to go for Vipassana can go on paid leave. The name rang a bell - it was the same course that the relative had mentioned almost a year ago. Out of academic interest I figured that it was quite widespread, it was a residential course and needed 10 days of time. This was reason enough for it to be crossed as a 'not for me' course.
Sometime in Aug-Sep 2009
I was in Delhi when I got a call from Sanjay Jain, Group CFO, Essel Group saying that his brother in law was doing something in parenting and wanted to meet me. I agreed and found myself meeting an eager Sushant Kalra. He had an interesting story. He had quit his job with Max New York Life to conduct parenting sessions in schools. This was based on his learnings from his experience of bringing up his own 2 kids. When I asked what led him to go out on a limb with this idea, he said he had done this course called Landmark and that made him understand his calling. 'Well, I know my calling', I said to myself and neatly tucked this information into a mental folder called 'Good for Smita, not for me'.
December 2009
I lost my father. Nothing can even begin to describe the sense of loss I experienced - in fact for the first few months, I was numb. As I begin to come out of my trance and pick up the threads of life, I realized a lot was broken, a lot was in tatters. I had to sew it back to some semblance of normalcy so that I could at least function. Some days, it was even tough to get out of bed.
August 2010
As Smita and I started to put the pieces of our life back, we discussed getting some outside help to deal with the loss. Landmark came up in our discussion and she went for it. Then I went for it. It changed my life. Then my brother, my mother, her father, her mother - slowly members of our extended family started going for it. It was my first brush with introspection and self discovery. And I had tasted blood. The more I delved deeper, the more I discovered how little I knew about myself. I started to see things that I was blind to. I started to empathize with others at a level that was not available to me earlier. I became a better son, a better brother, husband and father. And I knew that I was just beginning on this journey which led through humility in our accomplishment and certainty of our ignorance. I was keen to do and know more.
Late 2011
Anand, a friend from Hong Kong was visiting and in one of our late night conversations, Smita mentioned that he had transformed since his college days. He mentioned Vipassana among other things as an experience that had a profound impact on him. This was the third hit and this time I was ready. One of the insights I have now gained is that self-discovery cannot be foisted upon from the outside - you do it when you are ready. No one else can decide it for you. So when Anand said what he said, I said to myself, 'I'm going to do Vipassana some day'. I could not begin to imagine when I'll get to take 10 days from my life that was caught between Zee, Zoya and Anay but I placed it somewhere in my future.
May 2012
Smita's mother went for Vipassana. She came back and her neck pain was gone. We didn't talk much about what she got from Vipassana but I could sense that something fundamental had shifted for her. Then my mother went. And I think Vipassana finally gave her the power to deal with the loss of my father. She said that everyone she loves should do Vipassana sometime in their life because it really makes a difference. These instances further firmed my desire to go for it but it was still going to be one day, some day.
July 25 2012
I quit Zee Learn. I decided that before I start my next journey, I want to be sure what was worthy of me - what was the issue that I wanted to commit myself to? What was the problem that was worth solving? And is there something that I need to do or someone I need to be, in order to lead the next phase of my life powerfully? These questions were important for me and I decided to go for Vipassana to find some answers. Suddenly, something that was so far out there 6 years back was now in my immediate future! I got myself enrolled in the Vipassana meditation course from Aug 29 to Sep 9, 2012 at Global Vipassana Centre, Esselworld, Mumbai.
August 29 2012
I woke up with some butterflies in my stomach. This was going to be the first time, I would be away from the kids for that long. Then there was the whole thing about observing total silence throughout the course duration. Imagining myself being silent for 10 days was killing me. I was also anxious about what will come up and what will I have to deal with. What kept up the excitement was the belief that I would come back clearer about my future than I was going in with. With these thoughts, I went to Esselworld in a boat from Borivili jetty to start the 10 day Vipassana course.
September 9 2012
I stepped off the boat at Borivili jetty and felt that I was stepping back into a different world. This was again typical of us human beings who think they are the only constant in the ever changing world around them. In fact, it was I who had transformed or in the words of Anil Mehta, our teacher, I had set into yoghurt and nothing could now get me back to being milk. As we started driving back home, I noticed that I was very calm in the Mumbai traffic. I was overcome by this deep sense of goodwill and compassion towards everyone. I wanted to do good. However, I wanted to check if this would persist or I would relapse into being me after a few days of this 'high'.
September 26 2012
Exactly 4 weeks since I went for Vipassana, I can safely say that the effect is lasting. I don't know what the future holds but for now, I'm happy I went and I'm grateful for what I learnt. I don't get affected as much if people do something that I think is wrong or unfair. I don't get angry as much and when I do, I'm able to bounce back much faster. I don't wonder about why someone did something and what was his intention and why he should have not done it. I am able to focus on what I have to do. I have less self-doubt, more gumption to have a go. People around me - my wife and my brother - have mentioned how I spread calm around me. I have also become less preachy and more empathetic.
So what happens in those 10 days to cause so much transformation? Is it brain washing? Is it some complicated meditation technique? Is it some religious cult that leads you to the path of renunciation?
In my next post, let me take you through my 10 days in hell that seem to promise me a lifetime of heaven.
Wednesday, August 22, 2012
Identity
While there are a lot of drivers quoted in popular media such as 'foreign hand', communal forces, illiteracy, poverty, immigration etc., I think these are shallow reasons given by lazy thinking. A deeper analysis will reveal that we are driven by our context for life. And this context is shaped by our identity.
Identity is a funny thing. Most people don't see their identity as being different from them. It is like water to a fish - it doesn't know of a world beyond! This happens because in life, the unexplored, un-investigated and unstated, typically runs us.
Let us go back to the time when we were born. Who were we? A human baby. The only thing that we were born with was the tag of our species - human beings. And the other thing was our gender - that too because it is so physically evident!
Slowly, we came to realize that we were Hindu or Muslim, Rich or Poor, Indian or Pakistani, Brahman or Dalit, North Indian or South Indian, Tamil or Telugu - these are identities that come with the parents we are born too. They don't appear as choices because we never explore them - in fact they come as inheritances. But if we think deeper, they don't have to be. So religion, economic status, nationality, caste, region and language are not embedded within us - they are clothes we wear AFTER taking birth. And the more we insist on our right to choose these vs. accepting what is inherited, the more we will be free of it.
As we grow, we assume other identities - Engineer vs. doctor, executive vs entrepreneur, private vs public, graduate vs post graduate vs doctorate, maid vs master. As our family grows, we become friend, beloved, husband, wife, father, mother, uncle, aunt, grandfather, grandmother and host of other relationships.
And slowly from an infinite possibility at birth, we become a defined identity that is wrapped in its definitions and limits. Each identity that we take on, limits us as it defines us. While it makes us more of something, it also makes us less of something else. And this constant reduction in our span of possibility makes me what I finally call myself - An upper caste North Indian Punjabi post graduate Hindu Indian CEO who is father of 2 children.
And to think that I was born a human male - just that!
If we get in touch with who we truly are - human beings - don't you think the conflict that's dividing us everyday can disappear?
Wednesday, May 16, 2012
Learning for exams vs. learning for understanding
Of course my intention was not to throw her off gear. I was just assuming that if a child has been taught to write an application, she would be able to write an application, not just THE application for issuing a new diary. So I asked,
Me: How come you know this application?
She: Because I have learnt it, her tone clearly said that this was a silly question. You know because you learn, not because you know!
Me (persisting): But why did you learn it?
She (rolling her eyes): Because there is a test tomorrow! Of course the unsaid part was: why else would I learn if not for the test. Don't you get it my moron Mamu
Me: Did you write it yourself?
She (laughing at the absurdity of the question now): Arey no! The teacher wrote it on the blackboard and we noted it down.
My reactions were a mix of fond indulgence at her innocence and frowned exasperation at the jaundiced experience of learning that we were subjecting her to. Unable to give up, I went forward...
Me: Beta, why do we write an application?
She (almost instantaneously): Because there is a test tomorrow!
Me: No, no! Not that. In life, when do we need to write an application?
She (innocently): Humein yeh nahi parhaya
And with that declaration, she decided she had enough and walked away slightly disappointed that she had not been afforded the opportunity to recite the application that she had so diligently memorized.
I was left wondering, at the kind of education she was getting. Was she really learning anything? What purpose would memorizing an application serve if she didn't know why needed it. Or being able to gain an understanding so she can apply it in any circumstance. What was her motivation to learn? Was it to really imagine all possible scenarios where she would need permission or approval and hence need an application. Or was it to pass the test next day?
Are we creating an education system or an exam system?
Later that day, I went upto her.
Me: Ria, when Papa was building this house, who's permission did he need?
She (thought for a while and then said): carpenter's?
Me: Yeah, the carpenter made all the furniture and there were lots of times when Papa discussed things with him. But Papa didn't need his permission to build the house. Whose permission do you think Papa needed?
She (innocently): Mama's?
Me (suppressing a smile at what she had revealed unwittingly): Who is responsible for buildings in Pathankot?
She (getting interested now): Municipal Corporation?
Me (enthusiastically): Very good thinking! And who runs the municipal corporation?
She (tentatively): municipal head
Me: Yeah, that's what he is. Municipal Head. He is called Municipal Commissioner. Now what do you want him to do?
She (excited now): Build a house!
Me (prodding): Will he build the house or give permission to build the house?
She (nodding in agreement): Give permission
Me: And why should he give permission?
She: Because I want a house
Me: And why do you want a house?
She: Because I want a place to play, study, eat food and sleep
Me: Ok, so if you tell him that you need a place to play, study, eat and sleep and you tell him that this land belongs to you, he should be give you permission?
She: Yes
Me: So let's say this as if you are writing an application to the Municipal Commissioner. You want to try?
She (halting, searching, guessing, faltering but trying): To The Municipal Commissioner, Pathankot. Respected Sir, I want a place to play, study and sleep. I want to build a house. This land belongs to me. Kindly allow me to build a house here. Thanking you, Yours truly, Anika Sarpal
BRAVO! Well tried. I shrieked! 'See, if you think deep, you can write an application. Good job Ria'
'Let's do another one!' she cried enthusiastically. There it began. Ria's love for applications. We ended up making several applications. From widening the street to allowing her school bus to reach her home to changing the menu in her school to keeping the playground near her home clean - Ria was unstoppable! Then I slipped in the obvious one. 'hey, what if you lose a diary?' She went, 'I know this one! I'll ask the class teacher to issue me a new one.' 'And, why should she issue you a new one?' 'Else, where will I take notes and write homework?' 'Hmm mm...makes sense. Chalo, let's play something else!'
Learning can be fun. When children are taken from the known to the unknown, they are willing to try. When they see the relevance of what they are learning, they are enthusiastic to learn more. But if it is all about passing an exam, they'll do what it takes to pass the exam - in most cases, this means mugging up before and forgetting promptly after.
Let's create an education system built around learning for real understanding NOT learning for passing exams.
Friday, May 11, 2012
Why India won't produce a Steve Jobs
The bookstore staff was clearly unprepared for this big outpouring of parental indulgence and children's enthusiasm. While they went about gathering drawing sheets and colors for the children on hand, I noticed something subtle but definitely present. This did not seem to be an idle Sunday activity to keep the children busy. This was clearly a COMPETITION!
As I was trying to re-calibrate my bearings to deal with 50 competitive moms and 2 dads, the Landmark staff started distributing blank sheets to the children. After about 5 minutes, I noticed something stranger. No child was doing anything. They were just staring around with blank sheets and crayons in their hands. Now in my world, I expect children to be excited to scribble, draw, paint - do whatever they want to do when given a blank sheet of paper and colors! But no, not these children. With my curiosity getting the better of me, I nudged close to a child and said, 'Beta, why are you not drawing anything?'. He looks up to me as if I'm from Mars and says, 'we are waiting for them to tell us what to do.' Now this stuck me as odd because children intuitively know what to do - scribble, draw explore. They are innately curious and would have a go at things trying out things, taking a chance unless told not to! But these children, 50 of them were just sitting, waiting for someone to tell them what to do! I went ahead and said, 'Beta, why don't you just have fun and draw what you like?' He turned to look at his friend sitting next to him, exchanged a glance which was a cross between 'has this man lost his mind?' and 'why do I have to talk to him?' and then said, 'but won't they tell us the topic?' I felt as if someone had hit me in my guts and my intellectual and professional being had crumpled under the sudden realization that here, right in front of my eyes, the future of the country was going to the dogs!
I turned around and hoping to find an ally in a mom standing nearby, asked her, 'why don't they just have fun and draw what they want. It's drawing after all!' What she said jolted me into realization that far from being my ally, she and most of us parents are the culprits. She went, 'what if they have fun and draw something and then the Landmark people come and announce a topic and they get disqualified? Who would handle that? They need to understand that fun is alright till 3 but then they have to follow rules!' Was she for real? I couldn't believe my ears!
As I looked around, I realized that she was not alone. One mom was fighting with the Landmark staff that they should not have given blank sheets for 3 to 6 year olds. They need outlines to color. How presumptuous of us to estimate what the child is capable of! When the staff brought out an outline book and tore pages to distribute to the younger children, another mom mumbled, 'How are we supposed to teach them not to tear pages from books if these guys tear pages and give it to them here!' Another one was shouting, 'What's the topic? Should they start? How much time do they have?' And I was wondering how easily they had made a fun activity for the kid into an exam with lots at stake.
Once the drawing started, performance anxiety took over the moms and made them into monsters. One mom was shouting across to her 3 year pretty little daughter, 'Color within the lines, look at how didi is doing!' The poor girl who seemed to be having fun till that point, filling in different colors in the butterfly outline, started panicking. Her lines went haywire and tears started streaming down her eyes. Another mom stopped a child from talking, insisting that she was disturbing her daughter! There was a mom who was insisting that her boy draw a straight line under his name. There was still another who threatened, ' Don't copy'. And this was a drawing activity, not a Board exam!
How did we come to this? I know for sure that all of us love our children and want the best for them. But then why do we go ahead and do things that kill their curiosity, snub their risk taking ability and take the fun out of learning? Why do we insist that all lines should be straight? Why do we want them to color within the lines? Why do we want them to wait for instructions? What will happen if children are left to be children?
Is it any surprise that we don't produce an Einstein? Do you see why India won't produce a Steve Jobs?
Wednesday, May 09, 2012
Distortions due to RTE
The 25% reservation should not have happened in the first place. It seems to be driven by the misplaced desire of socialists to teach 'elitist' schools and 'elitist' parents a lesson, get rich people to share the spoils with the 'have nots'. It forgets that philanthropy can be inspired, not forced. There are enough philanthropic institutions that have seats reserved for the poor, which offer freeships and scholarships for the disadvantaged. Why take that intrinsic motivation away by forcing an external diktat down their throat?
Now that it has happened, the 25% reservations should have been applied as a blanket to all private unaided schools. Forcing it down for some and not on others, creates distortion. People start to consider that opening a minority school or a residential school might be better because then 25% reservation doesn't apply even though the area might not need a minority or a residential school! Schooling starts to become more about avoiding the 25% reservation instead of educating children!
The larger point however is that 25% reservation does not create new capacity for the whole system! As per article 6 of the RTE Act, Government is responsible to ensure that there is a primary school within 1km and secondary school within 3km of every child within 3 years of the act coming into being. That milestone is on 26th August, 2012. Is there any progress towards that end? Public opinion and media focus has to shift from whether 'rich, elite schools are willing to implement 25% reservation?' to whether Government is taking concrete steps to enhance supply of schools and meet the requirement under article 6 of the act.
Else, we'll miss the substantive for the populist.
Friday, April 13, 2012
Right to education and the RTE Act
Now, what determines good quality education? And what comes in the way of universal access to it? Numerous surveys have indicated that good teachers in safe, enabling environments lead to good education. And access to it is a function of abundant supply of the above.
Why is it that in India, all children do not have access to good quality education?
First, there are not enough schools. As I mentioned in my previous post (about 2 years back), India needs about 25 crore school seats and my estimate shows that at present there are about 19 crore seats. Who will bridge this gap?
Second, out of the schools available, only a handful are of good quality. This has been brought out by numerous surveys and reports (ASER, PISA scores etc). Government schools top the charts in terms of rank bad quality. Some private schools are not a whole lot better, relying on rote learning and batch testing. Learning for understanding and application of knowledge takes place in only isolated islands of excellence. Teacher quality and motivation is the main culprit here. Our BEd program is outdated, teacher accountability in government schools is absent and teacher capability is pathetic.
In the face of this, how do we service every child's right to (quality) education?
First, of course is to increase the supply of good quality schools. But what does the RTE act do? Ask private schools to reserve 25% of seats for the poor and disadvantaged sections of society. How will this increase overall supply? It is not like private schools are sitting with idle capacity which they can offer to children of poor and disadvantaged sections. So the 25% children of 'strong and advantaged' section who would otherwise have gotten admission in private schools will now have to either go to government schools (thereby depriving them of their right to quality education!) or hope for new private schools to come up. And why would new private schools come up if 25% reservation makes it unviable for them?
Aren't we killing the goose that lays the golden egg? Aren't we stifling the urge to innovate in private schools because the returns would not be there anymore? Aren't we reducing the attractiveness for a private player to open a school? Instead, should the government not be opening more schools? Better still, instead of opening schools that are run by teachers who earn fat salaries but seldom come to class, isn't it better to pay vouchers to poor parents to help them pay for quality education? This way, the poor parent becomes equal to his rich counterpart in ability to pay. Government money would go towards funding education rather than funding non performing teachers. Private player can focus on running good quality school because both rich and poor parent can now pay for the education he provides. And with Nandan Nilekani's Aadhar project, this should be possible very soon!
Second, we need to overhaul our teacher education, curriculum and assessment system. What does the RTE act do in this regard? Nothing. Zero. Zilch!
The Act has so many flaws and loopholes that practitioners of the art have already found multiple ways of avoiding implementation. You will see an increase in private minority institutes and residential schools. You'll have another group of rent seekers for NOC to schools under RTE. You'll have fake registrations of poor students in private schools without an actual child studying. The list goes on. I have met a number of school trustees who have a ready armory to defeat the contentious and misguided 25% reservation guideline. Rather than investing time, effort and resources in policing an unfair rule, the government would be well advised to focus on constructive ways of guaranteeing the right to education of every child by building more schools and making teachers more accountable.
If we are truly serious about ensuring every child has access to quality education, then RTE is high on intent but low on action. The tough actions needed in allocating the right budget to education, implementing a voucher system, overhauling teacher education and rationalizing the ponderous volume of syllabus have neither been taken nor been indicated as future actions. All that has been done is an Act. The Right to (Quality) Education is still a pipe dream.
Saturday, April 03, 2010
Right to Education - my thoughts
Education for all is a noble idea. There is merit in giving every child the right to demand free education so that he can become Human capital for the country. In this post, I’ll concentrate on the contentious aspect of 25% reservation in all schools including Private unaided schools. This I think is misdirected and not well thought through. The reason why 18 crore children of school going age are out of school has to do with both supply side and demand side economics.
· On the demand side, economically disadvantaged sections have more imminent needs (food, clothing & shelter) to worry about education. Reservation is not going to fix that part of the problem. We need separate poverty alleviation and vocational education programs for this end.
· On the supply side, there are close to 10.75 lakh schools in India (1 million Government schools, about 30 thousand private aided schools and 45 thousand private unaided schools). But most of the Government schools are just primary schools and majority are in bad shape without roofs and toilets. India needs about 25 crore seats for children between classes 1 to 8th. But our capacity is not more than 19 crore seats. We need to focus on increasing capacity, not on shifting the occupancy in the existing schools by reserving seats for some. Where will the existing children go?
What’s more, there are critical implementation questions for the 25% reservation :
1. First, Who are the economically weaker sections? In a country where the Black economy is as big if not bigger than the formal economy, is there a proven way of identifying who is economically weak? When all our reservations are based on caste (principle of affirmative action), wouldn’t having this bill implemented on the basis of economic status cause a problem?
2. The 2nd question is what right does the Government have to mandate 25% reservation in schools which are private and unaided. This is akin to forcing reservation in the private sector. The Government can drive reservation in Govt and Private aided schools but the risk is that it will tamper with the only part of schooling in this country where there is some quality existing – the private unaided schools.
3. The 3rd one is who will compensate the Private Unaided schools for reserving 25% of their seats as free and how will this compensation be arrived at? Will the Government re-imburse the school on fee lost or just cover the expenses incurred on the 25% students? Will schools pass on the higher cost of operations to the remaining 75% thereby escalating already high fees?
Lastly, there is the question of assimilation. Mixing children from economically backward sections with those from richer families might cause inferiority complex or even resentment. Private unaided schools have various ‘opt-in’ programs such as study tours, sports, classes for extra-curriculars which economically backward section students will not be able to afford. Even simple things such as the quality of uniform, the difference in pencil boxes, bags and notebooks will unnecessarily affect the tender psyche of a young 7 year old child. There are enough studies I have come across which detail the impact of assimilation of a wide spectrum of economic backgrounds at a very early age. We need to tread carefully here, lest we harm more than we help.
I hope the Government focuses on investing the funds in building capacity to provide Access to Quality Education to everyone. This can be done through Public Private partnership but for that we’ll have to lose the moralistic, ‘not-for-profit’ expectation from the Private sector.
Friday, March 12, 2010
why can't cricket go the soccer way?
Players also turn up to play for their country. These occasions are few and far between. Every 2 years, there is a big tournament - either a World Cup or a Continental Cup (European Championship, Copa America etc). Once or twice a year, countries play an International game and sometimes they play friendlies as practice matches for these big tournaments.
Why can't Mumbai Indians, Kings XI Punjab, NSW, Bushrangers, Trinidad & Tobago become the equivalent of ManU, Real Madrid and Barca? They can have teams for the Test, One Day and T20 formats.
Why can't there be a Premier League in each country a la EPL, Serie A, Primera Liga & Bundesliga? Why can't there be other secondary league with a very clear ascendancy mechanism for clubs to higher leagues?
Why can't the primary support and following be for the club? Why can't countries play less no. of times among each other? Maybe even restrict this to a World Test Cup, World 50 over Cup and World T20 Cup?
Why does IPL need to have a window? Infact, international matches and World Cups (or Continental Cups such as Asia Cup, Commonwealth Cup etc) should have a window! Every 4 years.
Wouldn't having these clubs as the primary building block of cricket facilitate talent development better? Wouldn't it force all these clubs to become more rooted in the cities they claim to represent? In fact they could then invest in stadiums, training facilities, academies, scouts, trainers etc and become real clubs then the once-a-year 60 day circus they currently are.
Why can't cricket be more like soccer?
Tuesday, March 09, 2010
Leadership
In very simple terms, a Leader is responsible for developing a vision of what's possible, gathering a bunch of people towards realising that vision, keeping them motivated through the journey, making course corrections wherever necessary and watching the progress till the vision is achieved. In fact, the vision is rarely achieved because it is a moving target, but more on that later!
In theory this sounds simple. However, there are differences in how people do each of the above, thereby creating different Leadership styles. I feel it is as important to understand why these differences arise as it is to categorize the differences themselves.
In my pov, there are three main factors that determine a person's Leadership style - Character, Situation, People.
Character is the intrinsic core of a person. It is an amalgamation of a person's ego, his self-perception, his degree of security, esteem and assurance. It directly manifests in a person's behavior. Some Leaders are therefore very authoritarian, others are more receptive. Some think position grants them the right to violate others' dignity, others steer from making this assumption. Some like a following, others a healthy debate. Some like to talk, others like to listen. But character only dictates the starting point. And often Leaders veer far away from the starting point depending on the situation and people involved.
Some situations lend themselves to more Transformative behaviors. Others need more transactional stuff. A crisis, for example, would need all hands on the deck. A steady state business on the other hand, would mean the Leader can 'let go' and focus elsewhere.
Ditto for people. Some people inspire confidence in a Leader to 'let go'. Others send signals that spark panic. Leaders respond differently to different people. If they know what to expect, they don't typically ask. If they know that promises made are usually kept, they won't peer over your shoulder. If they know that they'll get the bad news as fast as the good news, they won't second guess. In that sense, a Leader is as good as the person or team he is leading.
All being said, Leadership is a contract between the Leader and the Led. This contract depends to a larget extent on the kind of person that the Leader is (therefore pray that you are not stuck with an insecure person who derives his self-worth through others' affirmation). However, it also varies with the situation and can be influenced by the person who is being led.
This thought is very empowering. It transfers the Locus of Control to the 'Led'. It says that while you can't choose your Leader, you can choose his Leadership style for him!
Tuesday, March 02, 2010
The Problem with autonomy
Whoever you are......you're answerable to someone. If no one else, at least your wife!
Rather than asking someone to leave you alone, isn't it better to make a follow-up unnecessary?! If you don't want to have someone give advice to you, ask for suggestions ahead of time. If you don't want people interfering, give them a heads up.
The best way I have found of keeping your managers from interfering in your business is to set the right expectations and exceed those expectations. That's not all, continuously keep them informed of the progress because some managers are impatient and they assume the worst if they are not told otherwise. And in case you realise that you are going to miss the commitment made, it is better to share the bad news early than your manager hearing it from someone else.
Lastly, having a reason for your failure is not as important as having a Plan B. The reason will get you past a tough discussion but the alternative plan will get you the results. Where you focus, pretty much determines how far you'll go.
Thursday, November 19, 2009
The Right kind of questions
As economists have laid out amply, human beings respond to incentives. There is also this other tendency among human beings that we can't manage what we can't measure. Put the 2 together and you have the root cause of the 'rote learning' problem.
Parents, Community leaders, educators and administrators all want to know whether learning is being achieved in schools or not. They also want to check this in an objective manner. (Whether the latter is a noble aim is questionable, but we'll come to that). So we need to create questions which have 'unambiguous' standardized answers. Most of such questions start with 'Who', 'What', 'Where' and 'When'.
Creativity is by definition indeterminate. You cannot predict what will happen if you ask a student to create. However, creativity is the highest form of understanding for only when you've comprehended, analyzed and evaluated can you create.
This raises the peculiar problem that you can't measure what you know is right, so you manage with what you can measure.
The other issue is that of incentives. Teachers are not really measured for performance in our country, and when they are, its for the wrong thing. If you have not finished the syllabus before the exams and a question comes from the 'uncovered' portion, you'll have parents come in the PTM and shout at you. And you are lauded if your class is in distinction (in an exam designed for memory). So what do teachers do in such a scenario. Without even reading Freakonomics, you could predict that they would complete the syllabus, teach for rote and test for rote and be hailed as a good teacher!
Students too are rewarded for scoring high in exams designed for memory. So they mug up the answers to the questions they expect for the exam, regurgitate during the exam and promptly forget afterwards.
What is the incentive for teaching for understanding? What is the incentive for learning for understanding? How do we measure whether understanding has been achieved when different learners manifest their understanding differently - making it hard for 'objective' scoring?
I don't have the solution for this . But I have some ideas :
1. Assessing a student's understanding through a portfolio that she makes and maintains through a year might spur application and creativity. A portfolio also allows students with intelligences different from the traditional 'linguistic - logical' to express their understanding in the way they prefer. It also ensure all emphasis is not on a year end examination.
2. This portfolio can be judged not just by a teacher but the community. Portfolios can be exhibited or published and readers or visitors can rate the portfolios. If an auction system can be worked out, students can actually see the market value of their portfolios - something far more concrete than marks!
3. Teachers can be rated on the total market value or rating that their class generates. This will incentivize teaching for understanding and not for rote
4. Teachers need to be trained to be constructivists and not instructionists.
5. At the higher secondary level, there could be standardized tests for each vocation or stream and students could take those to ascertain their proficiency for those fields. Such tests exist (JEE, CBSE Medical etc) but we can create a common test with special subject tests if required. This will facilitate entry into professional or graduate streams.
6. Any other idea that promotes 'real understanding'.
Sunday, November 15, 2009
Why women wearing pants didn't need to be that way
Further in AWL County, women also carry the portfolio of Home Ministers. Each Home Minister prepares an annual budget and have annual productivity targets. They work with their suppliers to drive down costs, innovate constantly to drive down operating costs and maintain quality and customer satisfaction at home through on time delivery and excellent culinary products. Again, they are recognized for best practices and those who achieve their profitability targets get to invest their profits in pursuits of their liking. Every year their, the top 5 Home Ministers are fetted and their name put on a roll of honor. Past winners come to felicitate that year's winners and the whole community applauds successful Home Ministers.
Ofcourse, AWL County does not exist but my guess is that if ever it did, it would not have seen the advent of the Women Liberation Movement. The reasons why women left their homes and their children to compete with men to gain respect, dignity and an affirmation of their value would not have existed in the first place.
AWL County also affords some ideas on how the idea of Dignity for Women could have been achieved at a lesser cost to families, children and women's happiness. Fact is that women are good in some areas - really good. And men suck in those faculties. Exceptions, of course exist everywhere. Similarly, men are good in some areas and womnen suck in those.......Ever been stuck behind a woman driver in Mumbai?
If we had just recognized each others strengths and done what we are best at, maybe we would have had a much better world. Now we just have them working harder and harder to prove to themselves that they are as good.........when they could have been great mothers, teachers and home makers and be recognized, valued and cherished for it!

